Weight loss and relationships

**Cyn** · 06-10-2005, 12:21 AM

Since you have started on your weightloss have your relationships with family or friends changed? I know that often times this happens to people. I have a friend who treats me different now--I dont know hwow to explain it exactly but I think she may be jealous because I am actually taking the steps to do this and she is still making excuses why she cant--stress, too busy, any excuse. I know what that is like because for a long time I made excuses too. She says things like "I am sure you wont eat a piece of cake because of your diet" when I was talking about my sons b-day. I dunno maybe I am just paranoid! Another friend ask me when I first started losing how much I had lost-when I said about 20 she said "well you cant really tell it." Nice huh? And then there is my hubby who says I dont need to lose weight-Uh hello! When you get up to 260+ or whatever I was I think you need to do something!! I know he is just meaning he will love me fat or not but I want his support and understanding-not to be told I dont need to do it. I guess it could be worse-he could be yelling at me to lose weight. Maybe it is just me cause I know I often get obsessive about my weight now. But I know if I dont have that on my mind at all times I will blow it and start eating without thinking again. Oh well, when I have reached my goal I will be happy and that is all I care about now.

**NeedtoLose** · 06-10-2005, 11:46 AM

I usually will take a peice of cake and have 1 or 2 bites and let my husband eat the rest. :grin:

With certain people I do not talk about 'being on a diet' and I do not turn down social offers because of it. I just make the healthiest choices I can from the options I am given. Or eat a smaller portion.

I do not want food to rule my life. I totally understand what you mean.

My husband has told me that he thinks I certain family member might be jealous if I get skinnier than her, but I figure that is her problem.

**Cyn** · 06-10-2005, 11:55 AM

Isnt it sad to think people would be jeaous rather than happy for you? I just dont get it. You are right about keeping it to yourself for the most part I dont share with my real life--just you guys get to hear all my dirty little secrets!

**NeedtoLose** · 06-10-2005, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by cyn

Isnt it sad to think people would be jeaous rather than happy for you? I just dont get it. You are right about keeping it to yourself for the most part I dont share with my real life--just you guys get to hear all my dirty little secrets!

oooooooooooh....I like dirty secrets. LOL

**Cyn** · 06-10-2005, 02:14 PM

Me too ;-) Just wish I had some! Life is pretty ordinary in my little world. Not much exciting to tell. Oh well, sometimes mundane is a good thing I guess.

justdoit · 06-10-2005, 06:38 PM

Sometimes I can not figure out why people react the way they do to other peoples success. I do not even think that i is intentional all of the time, it just seems like people can never be happy with what others do. Maybe they are jealous, who knows. I have lost 44 pounds, my husband has lost about 50...Everytime we see my Mom she goes on and on about how great he looks and how skinny he is and how proud she is of him. She will not even acknowledge my weight lose, although when I was 44 pounds more she would constantly tel me about how I was such a pretty girl if I would only lose weight...

My sister also tells me all of the time how 44 pounds is nothing at all if you have to take pills to lose it, and that she could lose 44 pounds to if she wanted to take pills. You know what, I do not care how she would have to do it, I would be happy for her no matter how it came off. She also says don't get rid of your "fat" cloths, you will need them when you are not taking the pills anymore.

Don't listen to the negitve things people have to say. Ignore them and just be happy with yourself. Another good thing to do is repeat back to them what they just said and ask them why they said it. Sometimes when people have to really think abuot the nasty garbage coming out of their mouth they realize what idiots they are!!!

***Ian*** · 06-10-2005, 07:49 PM

Your post above was both motivational and heartfelt, and it struck a chord
with me because I am sensitive to the things people say to me, especially
when the words coming out of their mouth are uncalled for and mean.

This has made my day much better. I hope everyone else feels this
way and can stay strong, no matter what the immature pessimists
around us are saying.

**Cyn** · 06-10-2005, 11:52 PM

Nothing anyone says out of ignorance will stop us!!