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longing2bhappy · 03-31-2008, 02:04 AM

Hello everyone. I've been gone for a while. My life has been like a whirlwind. I don't know where to begin. I have been a stay at home Mom for almost 3 years. My husband is in Iraq and has decided that he wants a divorce. Have not seen him since November. He comes home is May and will not be coming home to me. I knew I needed a job so I started working Feb. 4th, we sold our home a week later and I had to be out in 2 weeks...all of this while working a new full-time job so I couldn't take time off for moving. Oh, did I mention tha I have a 7 year old also I am taking care of. It was a real challenge moving from a 3300 sq. ft. home to an apt. Since our house has sold my Husband had pretty much washed his hands of me. My life has been turned upside down and inside out. I'm still trying to get settled in our new Condo, which we are renting, so it really does not feel like home. I'm just devastated that my Husband wants nothing to do with me, other than seeing our Daughter. I'm just really confused. Obviously there is someone else because I don't know how you can toss someone aside after you have been with them for 15 years. I mean, he has no feeling for me whatsoever, he doesn't want to go to counseling or even attempt to save our marriage. That is why I feel like there is someone else. The last time I saw him was at the airport in November, I was crying telling him to be safe and come back home safely to us, and telling him how much I was going to miss him. Now he is leaving me. Sorry, I have rambled enough. Getting to my weight loss...I have lost 20 pounds so far. I have been on phen since beginning of January so they say that I am losing it at a good pace. Anyway, please keep me in your thoughts and prayers because I know my road it going to get harder before it gets easier.

**amandabrown23** · 03-31-2008, 02:22 AM

Omg honey I cant even imagine what you are going through. Congratulations on your weightloss isnt even enough for me to say to help you to feel better. You will be in my prayers.

**jeff** · 03-31-2008, 02:52 AM

You will certainly be in my prayers. You have a lot changes going on. I hope you have friends and family near you to help out. I also live in SC.
Mary B

**susanpesek** · 03-31-2008, 08:44 PM

Sometimes the best thing is to remind you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE and that God will help you get through this. THAT, I know for a fact; you can take that to the bank and cash it!

We will not forget, either. Any one of us stands on ready at the bottom of each text box on "PM." There are WILD people on this forum that stay up all though the night, so there is always SOMEONE on watch.

YOU ARE DOING GREAT ON WEIGHT LOSS, GIRL!@!

loveski · 04-01-2008, 12:39 AM

I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. Do you have any support from other military wives around you? It breaks my heart thinking of what your husband has told you. How many times has he been to Iraq? Has he ever suffered from ptsd before? One of my very best friends has been through a lot with her husband, he is a capt. in the army. He has said sooo many horrible things to her that you would not say to your worst enemy, and it is because of ptsd. He was never that way before going to war. It sounds like you are doing thinks right for yourself and your daughter though!! Try and stay focused and positive. I know you are hurting, but don't give up all hope if you really love your husband. Trust in god, pray, and if it is meant to be it will work out!

**court2345** · 04-01-2008, 01:52 AM

I will pray or you 2. My husband was in Baghdad, Iraq for a year. He saw some crazy stuff, and was hard to deal with at first. Stay strong.

longing2bhappy · 04-01-2008, 02:40 AM

Thanks to everyone for all of your prayers and support. It means alot to me to log on and read your words of encouragement. I'm so thankful that I found this forum.

**msmartini** · 04-01-2008, 11:52 AM

I'm so sorry to hear of the struggles you are faced with right now.