[kasandraosborn]

Okay ladies, as you know I'm happily married and have been for almost 3 years now. My husband and I have a quirky relationship, I'm a handful and I think he does a pretty good job of putting up with me. He's far from perfect too, lol, but nothing that I cant handle. Well, before I met my husband I was dating Steve. This guy completely captured my heart day one. I was head over heals immediately (I dont even know why, he was attractive..but not smokin..lol) Anyway, he broke my heart. Shattered it into little itty bitty pieces. I told my husband when we met that I wasnt interested in dating...I was still in love with my ex. He kept trying and trying so I caved and was like okay, but nothing serious. I like you but I still love him. He says no big deal. Anyway, over time Steve faded away and I became absorbed with my hubby. I fell madly in love with him. I would occasionally think about Steve, but he was way out of the picture, he had moved to Colorado and I didnt have a way to contact him even if I wanted. I knew I still loved him, but honestly I never though I would stop completely so up on the shelf he went. So, 3 years later (about 10 days ago) I get an email from mr. heart breaker himself. I was like WHAT?!?! Who does he think he is?!? So, I replied a short response. Then he text me?!?! I was like...wow. So, I guess he didnt lose my number..lol(one of the many excuses I made for him not calling me after he moved) Anyway, of course I told my husband that I was "communicating" with my ex...he didnt have much to say about it lol. (and believe me, if he has something to say he says it) Okay so we've been catching up, he's apologized a jillion times for what he did to me. Things have been going fine between us, he's a little flirty sometimes but nothing abnormal for Steve, he's like that to everyone. THEN yesterday..I commented on how much I liked a pic he had posted online (of him and his daughter...17mo old). Its an adorable picture. I love it. So, he picture messages it to me...but he writes something at the bottom. "the only thing missing in this picture is you" It made my freaking heart hurt. I didnt respond to it, then he was like are you there? Everything okay? I was like NOOOOOO. EVERYTHING IS NOT OKAY. I went off on him. I was like HOW DARE YOU say that to me. I was so in love with you, put up with so much b.s., and was so heartbroken for months when YOU left ME. So dont you DARE throw that at me. You know I WANTED to be in that picture. I wanted to be with you, I wanted to have your babies and you still left. If you wouldnt have I would be in that picture. So because you f'd up, you're alone. I get so irritated everytime I think about it...grrr. He says he meant it as in the picture would be complete to him if I was in it, because thats all he ever wanted, he was just you and immature. He said he knows I'm married and he knows he'll never be able to have me in his life like that but it doesnt keep him from wishing he hadnt screwed everything up.

Is it 5:00 yet? I need a drink. lol

[torip75]

Do not let him get to you. He sent that picture and said what he said because he wanted to see if he still had that effect on you.Since it has been years since you guys spoke and he knew how you felt back then he wanted to know if you still felt the same....If you do have some feelings for him, don't let him know it! If I were you, I wouldn't even keep talking to him. He made his choice when he left you to move on, so you do the same MOVE ON!!

[kasandraosborn]

Oh I know what he's up to. It's hard to move on though when someone has a piece of your heart :/ I'm not going back, but I'm not strong enough stay away from him.

[donise25]

HUGS hun
stuff like that is tough
espically b/c of the strong
feelings you had for him

[denvergirl]

Amen, Torip! He is insecure and using you (again) to build him up. Go look at your husband and be sooooo thankful you are not with someone that is STILL young and immature. His response to the email proves that. To the ex, you are safe. He can get his strokes knowing you still have feelings. That is really crappy! If he was any kind of MAN he wouldn't have needed an excuse for the first time. Be strong and let him go for good. This is very dangerous territory and your marriage is at stake...You can do it ~ you've got support sista!

[spice2621]

Wow! Well I am glad that you held you ground and told him that upset you...versus being upset and not saying anything...I give you props for that...just make sure it doesn't bother your husband if you are talking to your ex via text or anything...especially if you wouldn't want him to do the same. Have a great night!

[kasandraosborn]

I'm 100% honest with my husband about everyone I talk to...and vise avers. The only time we really run into problems is if there is lack of up-frontness...lol...like if I find out something before he tells me kinda stuff.

[spice2621]

That's good..honesty is the best policy...have a great weekend!