Looking for a buddy

**turtle9828** · 09-11-2007, 07:45 PM

Hey all! I finally get to start my phentermine today. As of today I weigh 188.5 lbs and am 5'2". I lost 7lbs over the last month with meridia but decided meridia isnt my thing so here I am. anyone want to buddy up with me?

**2summers** · 09-12-2007, 12:16 AM

I'm not in a position to be a buddy, but I wish you the best!

**Members: Login for Full Benefits** · 09-12-2007, 01:55 PM

I'll be your buddy turtle!

**turtle9828** · 09-12-2007, 09:04 PM

Sounds good to me! Thank you!

**nylon** · 09-15-2007, 02:45 AM

Same goes for me!

As I believe you and I have the same goals...Lose the weight to become fat again (baby fat that is!!!) for more babies. Is she your first? I must be mad...Just think I get to do this weight loss thing all over again. I'm gonna be here for years I guess..

I told my husband that I would love to have twins...He cringes at the thought of it. I really want 3 (2 girls and a boy. Every father needs at least one son and definitely a couple of princesses). He laughs at me..he told me if I were to have twins I would fall over after the 2nd trimester because I'm so tiny from the waist down and he would have to wheel me into the hospital.

**turtle9828** · 09-15-2007, 11:46 PM

Nylon what an awesome goal! When will you start trying again? I had lost a lot of weight before I got pg with my daughter (yes she is our only child) and when I got pregnant I went on bedrest and gained 65 lbs

In april we decided to start trying again. I was shocked Sean told me we were done but I was so so so happy. We quickly got pregnant but it ended shortly after. A month later I just looked at myself and said I cant do it again. What if I go on bed rest the second time and put 65 more pounds in to my 195.5 I would die! Okay not really but you get my point. There are days I want a baby so bad I want to throw in the tell but having you all here has really helped keep my focused on my health.

**nylon** · 09-17-2007, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by turtle9828

Nylon what an awesome goal! When will you start trying again? I had lost a lot of weight before I got pg with my daughter (yes she is our only child) and when I got pregnant I went on bedrest and gained 65 lbs

In april we decided to start trying again. I was shocked Sean told me we were done but I was so so so happy. We quickly got pregnant but it ended shortly after. A month later I just looked at myself and said I cant do it again. What if I go on bed rest the second time and put 65 more pounds in to my 195.5 I would die! Okay not really but you get my point. There are days I want a baby so bad I want to throw in the tell but having you all here has really helped keep my focused on my health.

As soon as I lose these last 9 lbs. and am ready emotionally to let go once again of my proud size that I have become after having a child. Physically I am there even with the 9 lbs. (my body is strong and fit). I would say sometime in the mid Fall or so

I made my goal of getting back to my size, getting in a bikini this summer and prancing around/sleeping nude again

(That's when my husband knows I am truly comfortable with my body and me as well.) The main thing for me is that I know I can do it again. I NEEDED to make sure that I ACCOMPLISHED my GOAL I put fourth even if it was just for a month a two or three. I said this before many times and I will say it again. When a woman gets pregnant and does not lose all of her weight and gets pregnant again I believe there is a high percentage that she will be fat/overweight/chunky/obese (however you want to call it or sugarcoat it for P.C. reasons) for a good remainder of her life, unless of course she makes that committment to herself that she loses it before the next pregnancy. It was my personal responsiblity and a priority to do this after our first.

And as for your die comment even though you said it in passing -- there are some that have emotionally died and that is very dangerous. I have several friends who say I still have my babyfat... Umm excuse me but your child is 3 yrs. old...Now I am not saying you can't battle that long because you can. It has taken me a good 1.5 yrs. to get to where I am. Last summer I was doing the same thing I have been doing now and was not nearly the size that I am today. I believe that was due to the emotionally impact of being a new mom. But if your child is in kindergarden one must look at herself in the mirror and come to a point where one must stop blaming the "babyfat". I did not want to die emotionally because for me I am a emotional person (my energies come from emotions) and if I don't feel good on the inside it will reflect it on my outside.

Getting back to the pregnant bit. I gained 45 lbs. and tipped the scale at 175 lbs. on a 5'2 frame the morning I gave birth!!

My knees got so weak at the moment. I had lost 30 lbs. pretty much overnight after she was born and was thrilled that I only had about 15-20 lbs. but unfortunately the emotional impact and the realities of being a new mom won the early battles at midway (and gained 21 lbs. of fat due to pure stress) but I am now winning the war after droping the bomb and will soon declare victory!! Only to start another war next year...

I hope to only have two world wars (that is where the twins come in

) with my body not three. But if three is needed to make peace thereafter, so be it, as I won once, I will win again.. (I'm a right-wing war monger so I make a lot of analogies w/war..

My cousin said to me last year (Hunter had just turned one a month before). When is the next one?

I laughed and said "not until I reclaim my body back" oh forgetaboutit just do it and get it over with, it's easier.. NO...that is exactly the attitude you should NOT have because with that attitude it becomes a nasty cycle of baby weight rolling into fat, getting more baby weight....rolling into more fat and before you know it you have three children and the fat has completely taken over..

Believe me I am here...honestly. My husband is so ready and if he did not really and truly understand me as a person I would have probably already been smoozed into another pregnancy before I had lost all my weight because the desire is so very strong but my self-importance and self-respect is even stronger.

So for those who say it cannot be done just poo-poo them (referring to getting your body back after a pregnancy -- of course after all babies are done there are some of those (umm**cough**cough**me) that will get a little help from your friendly P.S. down in the lower abdomen region that you cannot help after a
c-section(s) -- it's is impossible as your muscles were cut and WILL NOT be as taunt as you once were - plain and simple) all you have to do is look at those who have!! IT CAN BE DONE. YOU CAN GET YOUR BODY BACK IF YOU TRULY HAVE THE DESIRE WITHIN YOU!! There are NO EXCUSES!! That's me..

And bob's your uncle....

Seriously I am glad that I give you inspiration and focus...that makes me proud. Thank you.

**turtle9828** · 09-17-2007, 03:42 PM

Nylon I see you lost a nother pund 8 more pounds to go Good job!
I agree with you, this is not baby fat I am packing around. Now I am torn about loosing it all then getting pg again. I just dont want my kids so far apart and my husband is one of those types that it is now or never. So if I hold off getting pregnant to long it might not happen again. It was really hard on him when I misscarried in may. This also happened before we had Julia. Then when he was ready to start trying again I decide to "reclaim" my body. He wsa upset but understands. So we will re evaluate in Spring and go from there.

Um I am lost on the uncle statement though