Pooh Needs Advice!!!

poohbear · 02-03-2007, 03:44 AM

Hi everybody,

As you guys know,I'm down 82lbs.But I am only 4'9 and I still need to lose another 50-60lbs to be where I want to be.
I go for a walk 5days a week and have done this now for months with no problem.
Well lucky me some new people have moved into my neighborhood and they are older guys around 17 or so,and they have a group of people over everyday,at the time I walk.
If I could change the time I would,but with my schedule and having two kids this is my only time,give or take 30 min.or so.
Anyway I know I am an adult,but these kids are calling me names and making fun of me.It's about weight and just rude remarks.It's gotten to the point that I don't even want to go anymore.I don't want to let them get the best of me.It reminds me of when I was in school.I find myself wanting to not go out anymore,in fear of running into them.I know it sounds childish but I have so many emotional scars from over the years.It's really hard.Any advice guys on how to deal with this and get back to enjoying my walks again .

Thanks,
Poohbear

sara013188 · 02-03-2007, 04:48 AM

Oh hunny, I'm so sorry they are doing that to you. You would think at that age that they have learned between right and wrong, but they must be very insecure with themselves. Do you live in a subdivision? If you do you probably go around the block right? Maybe instead of going around one way, you can go around the other way to avoid the confrontation? Instead of going all the way round, you could go halfway down and avoid that certain house, and just turn around and go back the way you came. Still the same time and mileage. Another thing I would suggest is to bring a portable music player with, and sunglasses (unless it's at night, but I doubt you do that). See no evil, hear no evil right? I have always said "it's better that they make fun of me behind my back, because at least I don't hear it." If you listen to music and wear sunglasses, you pay absolutely no attention to them, and they soon realize that making fun is a lost cause, and their just looking stupid.

I use to always listen to my mp3 player while I walked, because it passed the time faster, and if I ever came across someone who was rude (which luckily never happened to me w/strangers), I could just tune them out.

Yes you are an adult, but you still have feelings, and no matter who is making fun of you, they have no right to. Keep up the good work, because you're doing absolutely fantastic and I'm very proud of you. Just think, in a few more months when your close to goal weight, they will have nothing to make fun of anymore, and you will feel like you truly accomplished something worth working and working for.
Good luck hun!

**susanpesek** · 02-03-2007, 01:25 PM

Hi, Sweetheart; I am sad for those folks, too. They must live miserable lives. Sara's advice is practical and smart!
Something that has worked in my own life was purposely making friends with my tormentors. I can't even remember how that worked but I think I took them home-made cookies saying I just couldn't handle them all by myself!
Most of us are alike in that we respond to kindness and grace. Try to handle them with an extra measure of grace that they don't deserve and you may help them become much finer people than it sounds as if they are and gain friends in the process!

curiousgirl · 02-03-2007, 02:13 PM

poohbear, I don't know if you seen the recent Tyra Banks media or not but it is worth a look. Some trash magazine put a picture of her on the front and called her fat! Well she fought back!! Don't get sad get mad and channel it all into that walk every day! You will probably be jogging by summer! And as Tyra says "They can all kiss my fat a**!"
curiousgirl

curiousgirl · 02-03-2007, 02:40 PM

poohbear, here is the link to Tyra Bank's show The Tyra Banks Show

lifesavers · 02-03-2007, 03:49 PM

poohbear, please don't let those insecure morons keep you from your walks. they obviously have so little going on in their own lives, that they feel compelled to pick on you. you have come so far, keep your head up high, put on your headphones, and walk, walk, walk. keep up the good work!!! you're almost there.

**thewomanwithin67** · 02-03-2007, 04:27 PM

It just never ceases to amaze me what people say or how they act. I would venture to say the way they act "may" be a reflection on their parents/guardians. Often when you hear children or teens saying stuff like this, they have heard it in their families.

I have 2 grown children 20 & 21 and I made sure they were taught from an early age about not "discriminating" towards someone for anything. That is exactly what this is, and to combat their actions, try every single day to smile, wave or even say something nice to them.

After awhile, watch what they say and how they act to you - you might be amazed and they will find the "name game" no fun anymore because you aren't "playing" along with them. I learned this at age 14, when I was teased by a family member calling me "fat" at 5'7 140lbs....[sigh] if I could only be that "fat" again :P

Don't let them intimidate you and lose site of your goals - you own as much of the sidewalk and road as they do

phengirlca · 02-04-2007, 05:32 AM

I can totally relate to what is happening to you poohbear!! My childrens friends tease my kids about me. I really hate that they have to hear that. People in this world just dont care anymore about others feelings. I think it covers their own feeling to make fun of someone else. They arent happy, so why should anyone else be. I agree with what the others have said....dont let them get the best of you. You have come SOOOOO far to let them ruin it for you. Forget about them, and keep doing what your doing. My hats off to you for the success you have had. Keep up the good work poohbear!!!!