[lovebliss]

Hi everyone!

Ok so I been reading a lot of post and there seems to be a certain topic that shows up on most journals. MEN!!!! I know we have all been there. So I thought it might be fun to start this topic. I know that sometimes we avoid all good reasons why we should NOT call that man that broke our hearts but for some reason we call. What we sometimes don't realize is the Obvious:

'He's Just Not That Into You'
The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo (writter from "Sex in the City")

I bought this book a couple of years ago. I am sure that you have all heard about this book since it was sort of a hit a couple of years ago but if you have not I hope it helps or at least makes you laugh.

I am posting this on the daily journals since it is were everyone goes on a daily basis and I hope we can keep the thread going.

[lovebliss]

Here are the Titles to the first few Chapters:

1. He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out
2. He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You
3. He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Dating You
4. He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex with You.
5. He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex with Someone Else

Ok I know these might seem obvious but the stories they tell are really funny and I am sure we can all relate.

Here is some of the First Chapter


Chapter One: he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out

Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you. If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.

Now you begin the life-changing experience of reading our book. We have put the stories we have heard and questions we've been asked in a simple question-and-answer format. If you're lucky, you'll read the following questions and know what they are: Excuses that women have made for their unsatisfying situations. If you're not so lucky, we've also included handy titles to clue you in.

The "Maybe He Doesn't Want to Ruin the Friendship" Excuse

Dear Greg,

I'm so disappointed. I have this friend that I've known platonically for about ten years. He lives in a different city and recently he was in town for work, so we met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me, as he was checking me out, "So, what, you're working the whole 'model thing' now?" (That's flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Greg, I'm disappointed because it's been two weeks and he hasn't called me. Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance. Can't I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what friends are for?

Jodi

Dear Friendly Girl,

Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's ten years and two weeks. That's how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster — but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it's been two weeks and he's had time to think about it and decide he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a "(expletive) buddy" situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.

I hate to tell you, but that whole "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we're really excited about someone, we can't stop ourselves — we want more. If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. And please, don't tell me he's just "scared." The only thing he's scared of — and I say this with a lot of love — is how not attracted to you he is.


Here is a link to the rest of the excerpt on USA Today:

Excerpt from 'He's Just Not That Into You'

[kimberpc]

OMG LoveBliss that's just too damn hilarious!!! BUT I know there are women out there that really think those things... trust me.. like I told Adrian today.. if you aren't into me I'll know it.. he said, "trust ME, I'm into you and you SHOULD know it already!" lol It was so cute... but I think women just read between the lines too much sometimes... lol

[sahmof4]

Bump ....... I read this whole thing and thought alot of it were true.lol This goes out to the single ladies out there. It's true my man chased after me until, I was caught. Not one of my so called relationships, when I chased a guy ever worked out. O.k. just one, but none of the rest ever did. It's so true though, men are the hunter's, they love the thrill of the chase. It takes some ladies a little longer to learn this then other's. It took me especially, a few many years, to realize, when a guy was into me or not. Who ever started this thread it was great and I got a good laugh out of it.

ttyl c.c.