[msmartini]

Joy, that's pretty much it in a nutshell! I think he just pulled a number out of his a@@! I'm about 5' 5"... on my tall days, that is.

at 180, my BMI is still 30.
at 145, it's 24.1

Then again, I've been overweight our entire married life so maybe he just likes me that way. Maybe he doesn't remember me when I was thin. Who knows... that's not what he's in the doghouse for but it doesn't change the fact that he was WRONG!

[sweet4jay]

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my DH thinks my ideal weight is MUCH more than what I think it is!!! I think they get a little "insecure" when we get thinner. Maybe they think other men will stare at us or something...? I dunno...
Men are just downright WEIRD sometimes!!!

[jessielynn0521]

Joy is so right. Some men are very insecure and then when we lose weight it bothers them alot. AND they think we are fine at a certain weight and we feel we need to lose more... just a difference in opinion sometimes though.

[susanpesek]

You ARE right, and he is ...um...a darlin'. And in my book, we are never TOO heavy. We are gorgeous gals who wear a size 4 but size 20 feels so much more comfortable! Right?

[jessielynn0521]

lol how funny is it you said that I felt more healthy at 275 seems like when I started loosing I started falling apart....comfortable it was but I am never going back there lol I think I am gonna have to learn how to live out of my comfort zone...but gees this maintaining thing isnt easy

[msmartini]

You ladies are sooooo right! I remember being a size 20(a few years ago) and it WAS comfortable. Sounds strange, doesn't it? But let me explain why...

I was 250 pounds(give or take) and a size 20. I was comfortable in my skin because I had nothing to prove. I didn't have to prove that I looked good in a bathing suit... I just didn't wear one! I didn't have to prove that I had the will power to eat healthy... I wasn't expected to! I didn't have to prove that I could walk a mile or run one in 7 minutes as NO ONE expected that I could! No one expected me to do any of those things... mainly myself! There was no risk of failure... there was no risk of falling flat on my face while walking in heels cause hell, I couldn't even balance in the the damn things, moreless walk across a room!

Weightloss is not just a journey that we go through... it's one that you take all of your family and friends along with you. Hubby is probably sitting over there going... hmm, 145? Yeah, well... let's not reach so high... how about 180? More because he doesn't want to see me fail and become discouraged. Not so much because he doesn't think that I can do it! Friends as well as family members are probably afraid to say anything about noticed weight loss for fear that it wasn't as much as they thought... or... actually, there doesn't have to be a particular reason... just fear itsself is enough.

One week ago today when I made a mini goal I was so damn happy! Wednesday is the day I go to bingo with my mother and sister for some weekly girl time... they work actual jobs(LOL) so I go early to save seats for the 3 of us. Well, I was so excited that I waited for hubby to come home so I could show him that I could now fit into my size 16 jeans as I had already told him of the number that the scale read earlier on the phone.

I was bouncing off the walls and shrieking with every word that escaped from my mouth about the great news!!! Tears of joy were running down my face! He just looked at me and said, "oh, that's great honey". No big hug... no jumping up and down with me... no big huge smile...

I was somewhat upset that I was late for my girl's night out for this... THIS is the reaction my good news brought???? Now a week later... I can see and somewhat understand that it's fear that brings these types of moments. Not only was I more comfortable in a size 20... so was he. As he didn't have to face the fear of saying the wrong thing. Trust me when I say I never... ever... asked, "how do these pants make my a@@ look?"!

So there, that's my therory on weight loss and fear. It's not just one sided... it is a monster that resides in everyone that is close to the weight loss-ee as well...

[msmartini]

My Wednesday update:

After coming home on Monday and immediately jumping on the scale(okay, with so much travel planned this fall... does anyone know where I can get a portable scale... one that won't take up too much room in my suitcase????? And yes, I know they are ALL portable, but I need a light one!)... my weight had seemed to stablize right at 215. For the most part I ate well while away and did my best to drink all my water. Most days hovered right around 70 oz, which is low for me, but sufficient. Eating out for 5 days you obviously consume much more sodium that you would if you were at home. Yesterday, I saw a decrease via that 'evil box' of about .8 lbs. and today... it seems that it has stayed away and taken at least one entire pound-friend along with him! So I'm thinking I didn't do too badly while away, which is good as I need to figure out this whole "being good while on the road" thing!

Official weigh in isn't until Friday, so I'm not banking on the numbers quite yet. But it's looking promising that I could have actually lost while away!! WooHoo!!!

My calorie intake yesterday was a bit low... 720. But I didn't work out(me... justifying again!). My water intake was back up to about 125 oz, much better!

Here's something new I have noticed. I was always an emotional eater... I mean always! Hubby and I have been having difficulties that seemed to escalate on our drive home from WVA on Monday. I had breakfast Monday and a handful of nuts on the drive before the escalation began. I wasn't hungry the rest of the day and night. I did make myself eat a grilled cheese later that night, but I wasn't hungry. Yesterday was the same way... I had to make myself eat.

So, today I am more aware... and have my food planned out... reminders set in Outlook and hope I have a much better caloric day!!

[jessielynn0521]

aww thats sad that he didnt react better to you getting into smaller jeans men are sometimes clueless as to what women need to be happy and for us to feel like they are proud of us....wtg on the emotional eating isnt it a great feeling when you are sooo used to pigging out when you are upset, stressed, or just plain bored and then one day you realize that by stuffing your face isnt making you feel better and you deal with the problems head on instead of hitting the oreo's that is awesome I am sooo excited for you I think that is a major accomplishment I too am an emotional eater & its hard not to reach for junk when you are feeling down wtg girlfriend you are going to do awesome at weigh-in